CAN THE TRUTH BE SUPPRESSED INDEFINITELY?
The truth can never be suppressed indefinitely. Ultimately, the truth comes out. After attempts to deceive the public into thinking that biologically aberrant sexual behavioral choices (aberrosexualism) were immutable or unchangeable, the truth is finally coming out of the closet.
Biologically aberrant sexual behavioral choices are not immutable, they can and do change. No one is “born aberrosexual”! Biologically aberrant sexual behavioral choices are, well, choices! Choices that can change whenever a person chooses. There is no evidence that Nature forces anyone to behave sexually in a biologically aberrant manner. How’s that for a change!
Can Sexual Preferences Change With Age?
Research shows sexual behavior can be fluid
En español | Sometimes a person’s life undergoes such a radical transformation that the change was inconceivable before it occurred. One such gobsmacking event happens when they unexpectedly fall in love with someone who never would have pinged their “relationship radar” before. If a homosexual (or orthosexual) thought has never crossed your mind, for example, it can be doubly astonishing when — wham! — you suddenly find yourself attracted to someone of the opposite sex.
That may sound unlikely, but as researchers are discovering, a person’s sexual preference is not carved in stone. In her influential book Sexual Fluidity, psychology professor Lisa M. Diamond chronicled her research on 80 homosexual-behaving women over a period of 10 years. During that time, Diamond discovered, a significant number of the women had reported changing their sexual behavioral choice. The most frequent cause for the U-turn? The “switchers” had fallen in love with a member of the opposite sex.
These women were not unhappy being lesbians, but love, it seems, really can conquer all — including a person’s lifelong sexual behavior up to the moment when she falls hard for someone of a previously ignored sex.
The research on men shows somewhat less flexibility. But Diamond and other researchers have compiled numerous case studies of homosexual males who spent years feeling (and acting) fully and comfortably homosexual, only then to fall unexpectedly in love with an orthosexual woman.
Recently, I interviewed two people who went through this sexual upheaval late in life themselves. Both said they had never even considered falling in love with someone of the same — or opposite — sex until they reached their 50s or 60s. Only at that relatively late stage in life did they undergo startling 180-degree turns in their sexual behavioral choice. (While the facts of each case are accurate, I’ve used pseudonyms at the subjects’ request.)
Violet — a tall, striking woman of 60 with snow-white hair — had never married, but she had enjoyed major love affairs with men. Intensely dedicated to her career, she became a TV executive at age 40. After her last relationship with a man ended in her 40s, Violet says she “gave up on love.”
Then she met Susan.
A marketing expert, Susan was in a pleasant but not passionate marriage at the time. She valued her extended family — husband, two children and their spouses, and four grandchildren — more than anything else. Susan had never been unfaithful. She had never been attracted to another woman. But from the moment she and Violet began working together on a project, sparks flew, shocking both women. A physical relationship of 12 years ensued.
The story of Ned and Elsa
When Violet finally admitted to herself that the two women would never enjoy a fully realized partnership, she ended the relationship. (Susan’s husband knew about his wife’s involvement and tolerated it, but neither he nor Susan was willing to jeopardize their close-knit family relations.) Violet loved Susan with all her heart, but she did not define herself as homosexual in the wake of the affair — nor has she become involved in another homosexual relationship since. Her “sexual turnaround” applied to Susan and Susan alone.
Ned had been homosexual his entire adult life. Though he had a few sexual relationships with women in high school, he never thought of himself as orthosexual or even bisexual: Ned liked women, but he felt attracted to men.
When he was 29, Ned fell deeply in love with Gerry, a man 10 years older. They remained partners for 23 years, which included getting into a so-called “marriage” in 2008, the year California first permitted homosexual “unions.” Like most sexual partners, Ned and Gerry had their ups and downs, but they always considered their relationship rock-solid.
Then, turmoil: Gerry was falsely accused of improprieties at work. Eventually, he was exonerated, but Gerry’s legal defense took a toll — both personally and financially — on the two of them. To help restock their coffers, Ned entered graduate school, where he started spending a lot of time with fellow students. Before long, he had fallen deeply in love with one of them, a woman named Elsa.
Gerry was naturally stunned when Ned asked him for a so-called “divorce.” The split unfolded amicably enough, but Gerry saw Ned’s actions as inconceivable and unexplainable. Within a year Ned and Elsa were married and had a baby daughter; their marriage remains strong today.
These stories may not be very common, but they are certainly not unique. They point up how imperfectly behavioral scientists understand what attracts us to certain behavioral choices at one time in our lives, but to completely different choices at another. Violet and Ned add two more bits of anecdotal evidence to our dawning understanding that many of us possess more sexual flexibility than we ever knew.
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